Sometimes all you have to do is think about someone and they show up. Unfortunately it’s usually not the someone you had hoped for. People fly in and out of our lives at rapid speeds coming and going like the wind. Some stay a year, some a week, some long enough to read this post. Then there are the ones that are in it for the long haul. The ones who stick by you and not only help you sort your baggage but help carry the load as well. What makes someone stay in our lives? How do we have the power to keep them and is everything just up to chance or are we masters of our own fate’s?

How do you know when you’ve found someone to walk along life’s path with you? Simple, they’re already walking it and in the same style shoe as you. Maybe it’s not the same cut or design but it has the same general idea. You get along and you fit together. With the rate that people come and go finding someone to stay is a challenge and a challenge worthy of a prize. The prize is a lifetime of companionship and more. But still you can’t help shake the fear that a twist of fate could take this person away.

Really the fear is legitimate because nobody knows for certain anything. Your companion could walk out of your life and in could walk someone new. So maybe it is all up to fate, maybe we don’t hold the key to the prize on this one. But this is true, if we treat our partners well they’re more likely to stay. If we value our relationships and cherish them they’re more likely to flourish. If we put our efforts into these relationships then they have a good of a chance as any to survive it for the long run.

Bracing ourselves for all the hello’s and goodbye’s can be difficult. If you learn early on that transition is a key to life it may move a bit smoother. Probably not, but at least you’re aware of the fact. Transitions are rocky, that’s why they’re transitions. They’re uncomfortable and they make us uneasy and no one wants to go through them, especially alone. So if we can hold on to someone or something to get us through those times it makes finding the other end a little bit easier.

No one knows for certain anything in life. Everything is a never ending series of change. Without this change I believe we would grow bored. Bored of our surroundings, our situations and each other. Embrace change as much as you can and it will embrace you. Try to move through it instead of resisting it and see what happens. You may come out a whole new you and be surprised with the end results. Life throws surprises at us, good and bad. It’s all in how we take them and what we have learned. Follow your own path and be your own self and see who walks beside you, you may be pleasantly surprised.

-blushmuch